This little tidbit is short but sweet, just like my eight-year-old pictured above. If our child wants to wear his shirt backwards, we let him. We would handle it differently if it were laziness, defiance, or just lacking the knowledge of the difference between forwards and backwards. But in this case... this t-shirt was a freebie at his dad’s “Take Your Kid to Work Day” event in the spring. Our son and his twin brother both have this shirt and love it, and though they are opposites in every other way, they completely agree that the robot belongs on the front. The real front simply has the company’s name in small print. This does not impress them, but robots always will. So on the front they must be worn. Upon reaching adulthood and for the rest of their lives they’ll be compelled to be conventional in their clothing most of the time. We say let them have their fun now. Besides, big robots are cooler than small letters. Who could argue that point?
In our little world here, we’ve learned to try not to make a big deal out of little things. Perspective is important. We try to consider how our child sees a situation before we react instinctively and think the worst. (This is not something we always succeed at… ask our kids!) It’s easy to make assumptions about our children’s motives and behavior, but by getting at the heart of it first, by taking a breath and asking a good question or two, we can glean information that will help us handle things appropriately.
So if your little one walks by with a shirt tag scratching the front of his neck, I recommend taking an extra moment, and seeing which side of his or her shirt looks the nicest. I personally think my boys just may be on to something… perhaps I’ll even examine my own wardrobe with a fresh perspective!