You might argue that having a public blog isn’t the most secure thing to do, but if you’ve been reading this blog, you’ll note that I’m not specific about our location, our plans, or really anything that might give some creepy unwanted reader too much information. Those of you who know me may know all those sorts of things about us, but I don’t publish them (and I’ll kindly thank you not to also.) I’m aware that anybody can see this website, though also aware that very few would want to! Just the same, our children’s safety and well-being is our top priority, and I’m careful in telling you about them to not tell you more than you should know.
I don’t know if Joe and I were just already wired to be this way before we became parents. Most parents love their kids more than their own lives, and would do anything to protect them. We’re no different and don’t claim to love our children more than other people love theirs. But we have been accused by friends over the years of being too extreme in our protection of our kids. To be blunt, I don’t really care what they think. And as someone who cares a lot about what others think of me in most situations, that’s a bold statement on my part.
I believe a significant factor in our hyper-secure approach to childcare is all the loss we’ve suffered, both as first-time parents with our twins Alison and Paul, and recently with our sweet baby whom we will not know until we’re reunited in heaven. Whatever the reasons, we feel strongly that every child of ours deserves excellent care and protection and to be guarded against any threat. The Lord in His sovereign wisdom chose to take three of our children to be with Him, and they enjoy a perfect security there that we could never provide. But with the four He chose to leave in our care, we will go to any lengths necessary to give them whatever security we can provide.
Someday when they’re all grown up we may have to apologize to them for being over-protective, but I’d rather have that to do than to apologize for not taking good enough care of them. So we’ll continue to monitor their every move as well as those of the people with whom they come in contact. I’ll continue to be vague here on my little blog about the revealing information you simply don’t need to know. And I’ll keep holding their hands until I decide they don’t need me to anymore. And with all due respect to you, dear reader, I don’t really care what you think of that.